When does a boundary become controlling?

Every powerful person needs to be able to set and maintain boundaries around the behavior they will practice and expect in their close relationships. When someone is violating connection through disrespect and irresponsibility, it’s healthy to set a boundary by confronting the behavior and requiring adjustment. However, it’s possible for boundaries to become punishing and controlling if we lose sight of their goal and purpose. In this vlog, I describe the number-one goal we must hold on to in setting boundaries, and ways to discern when we are losing sight of it.