Three Strengths of a Great Leader – In a time when leaders are needed

Danny Silk

I’ve been traveling around for the last 15 years. In those years I have had the privilege of meeting some of the greatest leaders on the planet. In that same time, I’ve gotten to see different types of leadership in action. The one thing that defines a leader, that stands out above the rest, is their character. John MacArthur said it best” According to scripture virtually everything that truly qualifies a person for leadership is directly related to character.”

In an age where mainstream media seems to want to help us dictate what character looks like and who leaders are, it’s good to know what to look for in a leader, and how to lead in your sphere of influence. Here are three qualities of every great leader:


The priority of heaven is clear: “If you don’t have love then you are nothing but a noise!” (1 Corinthians 13:1, paraphrased). Leaders who extinguish love in the process of reaching goals have achieved earth’s priorities . . . maybe. But the higher goals of heaven require us to cultivate and preserve love. Leaders who love and foster a culture of love around them have a high value for freedom. Freedom is the essential condition for—and purpose of—love. When we use our freedom to love as intended, our freedom and the freedom of those around are protected and cultivated.


When speaking to Job, God said, “Here we go! Prepare yourself like a man. I am going to ask you the questions and you are going to answer me. There is good stuff in you, Job, and I am going to call it out of you” (Job 38:3, 40:7, paraphrased). God applied pressure to Job, but He did it in the spirit of gentleness, in that through His questions, He clearly communicated the message that He did not need to control Job. He protected the opportunity for Job to discover what was truly going on inside him by inviting him to engage his will in the process. That is how God handles somebody He loves. This type of confrontation brings freedom.


Classically we like to interpret confrontation of leadership as dishonor. But God Himself was confrontable! In Genesis 18 there is a perfect picture of this. On His way to destroy Sodom, God checks in with His friend, Abraham, to see what he might say about all of it. He tells Abraham that there is an outcry against Sodom and He has to do something about it. Abraham, whose nephew Lot lives in Sodom, asks God, “Would you also destroy the righteous with the wicked?” He then goes to ask if God would spare the city for fifty righteous, then forty, thirty, twenty, and finally, ten. The whole time, God allowed Abraham to confront Him, and responded “Yes! You’re right. I would spare a city for that many…” God is confrontable! Abraham trusted God and God trusted Abraham. If God made Himself open to confrontation by a man, then it begs the question, who is above confrontation?

How are you leading? Don’t be afraid to ask yourself good questions, and remember—this is a process!



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  1. Excellent! I love having teachers who teach by asking questions. I want to be one who asks Good questions. But also becomes a question before him the greatest teacher!

  2. Thank you Danny! Could the source of these three characteristics be a heart responding to our union within the trinity of LOVE …… nothing to gain and nothing to lose!

  3. This is honestly so refreshing-leadership through Bethel(from pulpit,from ministry that comes out of Bethel leadership like this Danny or LAM,Single Life,Kris’ blogs and direction,etc)has been such a life giving part of my life….I LOVE this and know why you all are affecting culture.I am so honoured to have embraced leadership from Redding,California😀You are like the healthy human family that I was placed with to learn life differently

  4. thank you so much!!! i really treasure your teachings and inputs!!! learning about these important things in life, i experience much freedom, joy and becoming healthy in relationships! and today, i esp. treasure point three a lot, since "confrontation" or having a different sight of something or even adressing something constructive, i experienced that also very differently. sadly it was handeled as >rebelling< or >un-spiritual< or >not trusting the leader<. so, thank you again!!!

  5. Very sound post that triggers reflection and sheds learning points. The dimension of Culture from an African perspective in relation to confrontation needs to have a "respectful" approach; which i believe is cross cutting regardless of geographic backdrop

  6. Thank you for setting stating these priorities. "Without love, I can do nothing!" It is skipped over so easy by other motives but love is the foundation of everything Christian and Godly. If it isn’t a heart action then it isn’t truly love. As you’ve stated a buzillion times, fear has to go when love comes in. I love your heart and your teaching and my heart has been moved deeply by your books. Thanks, thanks, thanks.

  7. Could you please define what you mean by the word "love"? One responder mentioned the idea of loving from the heart. People seem to have differing ideas of what it means to love. We are commanded to love our enemies. I know how I define love, but I’m not sure we all agree. Thanks.

  8. I never thought myself as a leader. I always described myself as a servant of others. I later realized they are the same thing! Hm.
    I love to lead in community. I feel we learn better corporately, together.

    How do you lead?

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